Ask HD girls the questions you can’t ask anyone else. These are three women who speak their minds, so don’t expect any sugar-coated answers. Today, they are asked: I am getting back into the dating game. Any advice on what’s attractive or off-putting in a dating profile? -JB
Becky: First of all, welcome to the game, JB.
Jess: I think it’s a case of show don’t tell. Pick pictures that show what you like to do – they’ll be a great conversation starter.
Nik: Trying to be someone you’re not is a huge no. This person will (hopefully) eventually meet you, so be genuine – and don’t back down!
Jess: Use app prompts. Give potential suitors something to work with.
It can be funny and playful, and you don’t have to take it too seriously. I like profiles that suggest shades of gray: a fun commentary for sure, but also something more meaningful to show that you’re not one-dimensional.
Becky: Alright. And avoid the typical red flag imagery. We don’t want to see your car or you holding a fish.
Jess: Make sure your photos are up to date. I had a date with someone from Tinder whose pictures were at least ten years old. The weather, let’s just say, hadn’t been particularly kind.
Nik: I would also look for a bunch of photos – only one is a red flag. Some of you alone, others with friends.
Jess: As far as scrap, I hate profiles that are like, “Don’t swipe if you’re X, Y, Z” and then list the physical attributes they’re looking for in someone.
Nik: Yuck. No corny bios in general.
Jess: Or the ones that say, “Don’t be like my ex.”
Nik: The general idea: be yourself and don’t overthink it.
Jess: Key tip: the more successful you are, the more humble you need to be. Biographies that read like a resume are a huge annoyance.
Becky: The next step will be good communication. Don’t even bother being there if you’re not going to have a great conversation.
Jess: Absolutely. You want to exchange a few messages to see if there is any potential, but if so, try exchanging the phone numbers early and quit the app messaging. If you’re on the app, use it to date. No one needs another correspondent.